The Loop in My Head (And Maybe Yours Too)

Nancy Waring • 5 August 2025

Have you ever caught yourself thinking the same thought over and over again—even when

you *know* it’s not helpful?

Maybe it’s about your body. Your worth. Your place in the world. A belief that sneaks in

quietly, then settles in like it pays rent.

These are what I call *thought loops*—quiet, repetitive stories that take up **precious real

estate in our heads**, crowding out more empowering, joyful, authentic ideas.

You may not even notice them at first. But once you do? You realize how much space they’ve

stolen.


Where Mine Began

When I was little—maybe five years old—I had red hair, freckles, and a big imagination. I

wanted to be a princess. I didn’t think about flaws or fitting in. I just *was*. Curious, sparkly,

and completely myself.

But then came the teasing. The comparisons. The quiet corrections. I started to hear:


● You are so ugly with those spots and red hair

● I can do it better than you

● Maybe the worse was being called “thunder thighs”


And slowly, those whispers became loops.


The Loop That Stuck

One of mine still centers around my legs-my “thunder thighs”—short, not slim enough,

never quite how I want them. It started as a comparison, became a fixation, and in my fifties,

it spiraled into obsessive movement and restrictive eating.

I was praised for being “fit”, no longer having “thunder thighs”. But I was trapped in a loop

That said, “Just a little more, you can do it”...

It wasn’t just about legs. It was about the need to prove, perfect, and perform.


The Moment I Realized The Loop Was Still In My Head

Just the other day, I was driving and listening to one of my favorite YouTube channels on

self-awareness and conscious living. I wasn’t expecting anything new, but something the

speaker said it differently that day:

“How much of your mental real estate is being rented out by old beliefs that aren’t even

Yours?

Whoa. I actually paused the video. Because of that loop about my legs? It wasn’t *mine*. It was

built by comments, media images, praise I thought I needed, and years of reinforcing

something untrue.

And it was blocking space for the kind of thoughts I want to live in: love, gratitude, strength,

purpose.


What Are Your Loops Saying?

We all are carrying loops we didn’t choose—especially after 50, when life changes bring old

insecurities roaring back.

Common loops sound like:

  • “I am fat.”
  • “I’m too old to change.”
  • “Everyone else seems so confident—why can’t I get it together?”
  • “I feel like I’ve lost my edge—my usefulness, my spark, my appeal.”

Research shows that over 60% of women struggle with negative body image, and 70% of

high-achieving women experience impostor syndrome at some point. These patterns don’t

magically disappear after 50—in fact, they often intensify with physical changes, career

shifts, or empty nesting.


Reclaiming That Little Girl

That five-year-old princess-in-the-making didn’t worry about being good enough. She simply *was*. And I believe she is still in all of us—waiting for us to come back home.

A 4-Step Practice for Rewriting the Loop


Try this for the next few days:


1. Notice the loop.

The one that makes you feel small or less-than.

2. Ask: Is it even yours?

Where did it come from? A parent? A cultural story? An outdated identity?

3. Thank it—and release it.

“You’ve protected me for a while. But I don’t need you anymore.”

4. Choose a new thought to invite in.

Try:

● I am strong and healthy.

● I am passionate and caring.

● I am intelligent and live with purpose.

● I am a badass rewriting my story.


Want help working through your own thought loop?

I’ve created a free Companion Worksheet and a set of Journal Prompts to guide you through

the process.

These gentle tools can help you move from awareness to clarity and shift those old loops

into new empowering beliefs.


📥 Click here to download your Companion Worksheet and Journal Prompts (PDF)


Let’s Make Space for More

Let’s stop renting out space in our minds to old beliefs. Let’s clear the clutter and fill our

mental real estate with joy, vibrancy, connection, and purpose.


Want to share your loop—or what you’re choosing to believe now?

I’d love to hear what’s showing up for you. Whether it’s a belief you’re ready to let go of or a

new thought you’re calling in, you're not alone in this.

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�� Email: nancy@thevibrantsage.com

Let’s keep clearing space for thoughts that empower us, not limit us. Let’s choose joy,

energy, purpose—and make this season our most vibrant yet.


Namaste,

Nancy ��



✍️ About Nancy


Nancy Waring is a holistic wellness coach, yoga and breathwork guide, and the author of The Vibrant Sage: Arousing Energy for Health and Happiness. She helps women over 50 reconnect with their bodies, build sustainable habits, and live with energy, clarity, and purpose—no matter where they’re starting from.

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